Some hackers have dumped "personal" information of some 30 million users who were signed up at one time to Ashley Madison. Ashely Madison was warned that if they didn't shut down the site then the hackers would release the information of it's user base online and Ashely Madison said no. So the hackers (whom some herold as heros,but I do not) leaked the information online much the amusement and horror of the viewing public.
The hackers did so for a number of reasons. firstly that Ashely Madison has others ventures online including a site where rich people can sign up to hook up with much younger woman,a male prositute site and supposidly they are also involved in human trafficing... most claims which I have seen next to no evidence as being real (but if you the audience or even the hackers wish to correct me with some evidence then I'll kindly recant this part of my rant.) but I'll get a little more into that in a moment. The second charge is that well..Ashely Madison is a scam. Oh they give you what you pay for as far as hooking you up. but to have yourr account and information scrubbed from the site is 200$ and there is no garuntee that they actually delete all your information.
So let me get to the first charge and work my way back. Firstly "Human trafficing" this is a term that is really really hard to deal with because what do they mean by it? are we going by the dictionary " hu·man traf·fick·ing
- the illegal movement of people, typically for the purposes of forced labor or commercial sexual exploitation."
Now onto the second claim. That is the one that people should give a shit about because this just a more dressed up version of earlier scams: www.huffingtonpost.com/… there was another website that would post your personal information and a photo and then label you a sex offender and you had to pay 100$ to get your information off the site after you prove you aren't a sex offender. all these have no garuntee that they will actually take your information off even if you pay them in full. People use social stigmas to scam people out of money especially if they can get a hold of your information. what Ashely Madison was doing in this respect is absolutely wrong and I agree with the hackers on this.
Sadly that's not what people care about the most. what people care about is that people cheated on their spouces and I often hear it talked about in mostly male terms (we don't know the break down as of yet but there are women on the site as well who were registering,we assume,to cheat on their husband or their wife since hey gay marriage is a thing now) and this is perhapse the most shameful thing out of all of this. we don't care that Ashley Madison might be linked the human trafficing (again citiation needed for that) we don't care that they used social stigmas to blackmail people who wanted off the site or charged their minds about cheating. no we care that people cheated.
For one thing this information doesn't always effect the people finding out about it as seen here: www.newser.com/story/21… but if that wasn't enough we have to look at what is cheating. No I won't pull out the dictionary this time cause that's not what I mean. the point is often that we look at cheating through the eyes of monagamy and yet we in general aren't monagamous species if you look at the history of relationships dating back to as far as we have documented: www.tubeplus.is/.../Pen… www.google.com/url?sa=…
We often like to think in a very Disney-esc kind of way that someday we meet someone special..we fall madly in love with them and after a time we marry them and maybe have kids and live happily ever after. But that's not how things go. and sometimes Cheating is not only warrented but healthy for a marriage as seen here: www.slate.com/articles/… then there are people who are actively polyamourous as seen here:
watch-series-tv.to/episode/pen… who even have kids and the kids aren't alway poly themselves. Now polyamoury ISN'T the same as polygamy. Polygamy is the idea of marrying multiple people but doesn't always involve love. Polyamory actually does involve love and tends to involve loving more then one person on a deep deep level.
I've met many Poly artist here on DeviantArt and they actually taught me what that was since it's very taboo to speak about it in general and considered a dirty word. persons who are poly are seen as people "cheating with permission" which is still seen as cheating. they get subjected to slut shaming and all manners of being seen as unclean because they're genitals are in more then one person. which is silly if you stop to think about it especially since women are seen as std riddeled whores while the men are mostly just seen as commitent phobic dogs. and for once rad fems are right that this sort of thing is really stupid and can be harmful if the people are in the wrong community and get shunned. people can seriously lose their jobs in the wrong town.
beyond that there are extenuating circumstances. example: I have a co-worker who shall remain nameless. he was married and his wife suffered a horrible accident that left her paralized mostly from the waist down. as you can imagine she lost more then just sensation in her genitals,she lost interest in sex. to his credit my friend and co-worker stayed faithful to his wife even when she gave him the go ahead to cheat on her so long as he stayed with her. and it tore him up inside. eventually he found a mate in another friend and co-worker of mine whom I'll call jane. they fell madly in love but the guy wouldn't go all the way with my friend despite having permission to do so. we talked and talked about his struggle and I did my best to set him straight on things. He divorced his wife and then later married my friend Jane. their blended family is very very happy and they are as well. Now my friends are great people. not hoe's and homewreckers. they found love in an unlikely situation. but their situation isn't all that different to what I hear coming from places like upper society. where if the male of the house cannot perform the wife is given permission to cheat and often they do indulge. and we know they indluge because sometimes it becomes very public: www.nydailynews.com/new…
yet we don't bash the rich and powerful when they do it. and we know that some higher up then that have mistresses www.cnbc.com/2015/04/17… yet we don't condemn them for that practice. one that dates back long into human history.www.google.com/url?sa=…
and all this is coming from me. I am polyamours but I am planning on spending the rest of my life with one woman. she is an amazing woman who completes me like no one else can and I love her dearly. Despite my proclivity I have no desire (nor time) to cheat on her because I have been cheated on by a woman who was an absolutely scumbag. who cheated on me without caring for my feelings. But I have also been cheated on by a woman who hated how deeply she hurt me and yet she went on to marry the man she cheated on me with,have a kid and is living happily ever after.
some people who cheat are just what we think...scum. others however aren't scum or horrible people. my point is that at the end of the day I don't know any of the people on the list,so far as I can tell, and neither do you. and it's hipocrisy to not want to be judged as a group,for what ever you may stand for or be a part of,and then turn around and judge people as a group. and the ones I see doing the shaming are just that,Hipoctites mascurating as some kind of high and mightey,holier then thou kinds who feel they have every right to point and laugh at these people or to call them stupid,not because Ashely Madison is grifiting them,but because they signed onto a site for cheaters,because cheating is always bad always. well fuck you is the best I can say to that.